The handicap professional

I am totally overwhelmed with this blogging business and feel totally retarded.  I just don't get it...at all.  I'm not sure exactly how to follow peoples blogs and this whole "ring" thing is confusing as hell.  More importantly however, I started a new sweater and I am not sure that I picked the right size.  I am actually following a pattern instead of creating my own out of Custom Knits by Wendy Bernard.  I choose the sweater because I like the collar a lot and the vintage Audrey Hepburn feel of it.  After seeing other people's projects on ravelry, some who complained of it coming out too big, I am at a crossroads.  I don't want it to be too big but the pics of it knitted in a small make the collar look significantly smaller and don't have the same vintage feel.  Anyone who has knitted a sweater knows how much work (and money) goes into this and how getting the right size and one that fits is key.  Moreover, frogging a sweater really might be one of the most disheartening chores ever.  What to do, what to do...  I'm also dying to start on my Elizabeth Zimmermann fair isle yoke sweater but promised myself I would try to do this one first.  And sew the arm on the other sweater I finished and actually block it this time.  Sheesh.  So much to do, so little time.  And I'm expected to work?!  I so wish I could teach the client's I work with how to knit, but alas the prison won't let me take in knitting needles... Ha ha.